Relationships are tricky things. Sometimes they are difficult to navigate. Sometimes you’ve been in one too long to realize it’s not right.
And sometimes you get so comfortable with unhappiness that you forget what happiness looks like, or you don’t feel like you can do better.
But when you’re in the right relationship, everything is different. It’s good to have clear signs that you’re in the right relationship, so you are sure you could stand the test of time.
If you know how to forgive, your relationship can stay strong through thick and thin. Here’s a checklist that will tell you how long your relationship can survive.
1. Much respect
No relationship can stand the test of time if there’s no respect. If there’s no respect, you may find that your relationship will suffer. As long as you have respect for your partner in the way that you would want them to respect you, then things will work out.
2. It’s never you vs them, it’s always both of you vs the problem
That’s because you know how to have an ugly but healthy fight. You don’t want to win the fight, but you try to explain what the cause of the problem is. Also, at the end of the day, there is no fight bigger than your relationship.
3. You accept each other just the way you are
If he or she sees past your flaws and imperfections. Knowing that your partner accepts you for who you are and all of your flaws, and all of the things that you’re not proud of, means that your relationship is strong. When you accept your partner as well, you know that your relationship will easily last forever.
4. Trust is the base of your relationship
There is no question of infidelity because you trust each other. By now, you know quite well how to handle the attention of the opposite sex.
5. You have shared goals
It is widely believed that successful marriage has shown that couples who have shared goals together stay together longer. While you don’t have to be exactly the same, it’s important that your values and morals are aligned, as these will shape the direction of your life together.
6. Absence makes your heart grow fonder instead of fed up
You’re now a pro at handling long distance romance. It doesn’t matter if she is in Livingstone and you are in Mansa. It works smoothly, and in fact, the distance brings you guys closer.
7. You’ve got your priorities sorted
You both know that nothing is more important than your relationship. When you need to talk, you need to talk. Nothing can come between the two of you.
8. You can both admit it when you screw up
We are human beings, and that means we make mistakes. It’s one thing to make the mistake, but it’s another to admit you made the mistake and then attempt to fix it. Now, there’s a line as to how bad a screw-up is before it’s too bit of a screw-up. Getting irrationally angry at a small thing can be fixed, but if your partner physically harms you, that’s something you probably shouldn’t forgive (and no one would blame you). Which brings us to our next one.
9. You value intimacy over sex
After a point of time, sex gets repetitive. What stays is intimacy and you value it more than getting physical.
10. You can talk to them even when you doubt the relationship
OK, so you read this list and maybe agree with all of it, but one or two points are worrying you. No, it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed because having some doubts is 110 percent more normal and healthy than jumping headfirst into commitment without any at all.
11. You let humour take on the complexities of your life
Even if things are difficult in your lives, you let humour take care of it. You know how not to take life seriously. You also know that having a good laugh together is all that matters.
12. You forgive
The biggest secret of a healthy relationship is forgiveness. Everybody makes mistakes. Only when you forgive can you truly understand the depth of your relationship.
13. And you listen too
When the spark in the relationship fades, you tend to ignore what your partner has to say because you feel that it’s the same old story. But if you really value your relationship, you’ll listen and engage.
14. You never try to change each other
Accepting someone the way they are is what true love is about. When you find their imperfections adorable, it is when you truly love a person.