Having an Affair with a Married Woman? Here’s the thing

Having an affair with a married woman

12 Things you should know while having an affair with a married woman

Having an affair with a married woman! When you get involved with a woman who is already married, you feel you are probably more desirable than her husband.

It starts with emotional infidelity and ends up in the bedroom as it might lead to you having the best sex with her. Besides, you may feel that she is not keen on marriage, unlike other single women, and you can have good fun without dodging questions of commitment.

Slowly, feelings start to develop, and you find it hard to accept that she is not ‘yours’. The earlier thrill fades away as you realise she meets you when she wants you, not the other way round. She spends all her time with her family but has a quickie with you, leaving you wanting her even more.

And that’s why you need to know the probable consequences of having an affair with a married woman is that you will feel emotionally dissatisfied and will continuously find yourself craving her company.

1. She may just be looking for revenge

Many married women engage in an extramarital affair if they suspect their husband is having one or have discovered the same.

While having an affair with you, she may just be using you to teach her husband a lesson. She may be feeling that she is giving her husband a taste of his own medicine while sleeping with you.

Maybe, the great sex that you had was part of the beautiful revenge that she had planned for her husband. So your relationship with a married woman is a tool for revenge.

2. She may be beating boredom or spicing up her life

After years of marriage, monotony sets in. But options are available. A routine sets in and sex becomes boring. A new person to share some feelings with and a passionate session of sex make it look exciting and happening again.

So she was maybe just having fun, while you may assume she’s serious about the relationship.

  • Does she ask you to use sex toys?
  • Is she very interested in experimenting even with the condoms you buy?
  • She tries all kinds of seduction tricks on you from pouring hot chocolate sauce to licking you with ice cream?

Chances are she is just fulfilling her sexual fantasies with you.

3. Beware, the relationship may end any time

A relationship with a married woman is at her convenience. Because she’s hiding from her husband. She may end it if she develops a fear of getting caught. Or maybe when she gets caught.

Or if she’s just looking for some fun outside, she may leave you when she finds another option or gets bored of her affair the way she did with her husband. It’s best to enter the affair, knowing that it can end at any point in time.

4. Be ready for the heartbreak

Because the woman you love will suddenly disappear any day, it may be wise to know this and accept it. Research has it that only 7% of women walk away from their families to be with someone new. You can count your chances on your fingers.

And if you are emotionally attached to the point of no return, god help you. The heartbreak will kill you. You might find it hard to recover from your affair with a married woman.

5. Problems to create your own family

Having an affair with a married woman

Men who get involved with married women feel they will leave their husband and start a family with them. This is a rare occurrence. And in waiting for this to happen, they let go of other options to settle down and have a family. Sometimes, the wait is so long that such men end up staying alone all their lives.

Never, in any case, imagine a future with her. Because women generally turn back to their family and saving it will be their priority.

6. You are the second option

Her husband is her priority. She might cancel plans with you if she needs to be with her family or husband. Be ready for the ‘second fiddle’ stuff in your affair with a married woman.

We know of someone who was having an affair with a married woman and had a romantic evening planned with private dining arrangements along with flowers and champagne only to have her cancel on him at the last minute.

She texted him five minutes before they were supposed to meet that she wouldn’t be able to make it as her husband brought home pizza and wanted to do a movie night with the kids. So, even when what you have planned sounds more fun and appealing, she will always pick her family.

7. Family commitments first

You have planned a beautiful evening with her. But she says her kids want to watch a movie. She will go to the cinema, and you will end up feeling what? Left out. It’s natural; a woman will give priority to her family. In an extramarital affair, you will have to make the compromise most of the time.

8. She has sex with her husband too

You can’t rule this one out. No matter what she says, what happens behind that bedroom door stays there. While having sex with you, she may also be having sex with her husband.

And if she’s out to experience some fun outside the marriage, they may be a couple more partners too. Make sure you use protection to avoid any kind of STDs.

9. Emotional manipulation/seeking a shoulder

If she’s complaining about her husband all the time and saying how inconsiderate he is, she may be just giving you a signal that she is available. Or maybe she’s just seeking a shoulder to cry on. In your relationship with a married woman, you have to be aware of that.

You must remember that a marriage is a powerful bond, and even though she may be unhappy with her husband now, things will get better. Remember to criticise her husband as little as possible.

10. She may miss her husband while with you

While having an affair with you, she might feel guilty and miss her husband even more. Because she shares kids and a home with her husband, she might feel like going back to her family.

The initial phase of the excitement of being with you wears out, and she seems to worry about her family more.

Read the signs carefully. When you are having Thai food does she suddenly say her husband loves it? When you tell her she is looking stunning in a dress, very nonchalantly she will tell you, it’s an anniversary gift from her husband. What does this say? She is always thinking of her husband.

11. She’s not going to leave her husband or break up her family

In the Indian context, a woman can rarely think of breaking her family and going for divorce, unless under extreme circumstances. Across the world, women find it hard to break their own homes and walk out of the marriage just because they get the thrill somewhere else.

Being a male, you should be aware of this fact, and you may continue until she decides to end it due to certain emotional or family reasons. When you are in an affair with a married woman, you will be left to nurse a broken heart.

However, don’t lose all hope. There are certain situations where an extramarital happily ever after does exist.

12. Dealing with the husband’s wrath

The husband caught his wife red-handed in bed with another man

And if the husband caught her red-handed, you may be the subject of his wrath. Because no husband wants his wife to share a bed with the ‘other man’.

Moreover, he will direct all his anger towards you, sometimes manifesting in physical violence as well. You’d be better off if you join a self-defence course or are great at running.

This will be the first thing that would come handy if you are having an affair with a married woman. Beware, the husband might do anything in his power.

Married Women And Extramarital Relationships

Married women are getting more and more into extramarital affairs, and it’s mostly at work, thanks to the changing social dynamics like women participating more and more in the workforce, getting more involved in the social life and, most importantly, the powerful presence of social media.

Additionally, women also have affairs because they want to experience the thrill in their lives, especially if they have been married early. Some married women marry for convenience and look for warmth and affection out of marital relationships. Sometimes it is plain boredom that drives married women to seek pleasure and love outside their marriage.

Whatever the reason, extramarital affairs have been rising and will continue to do so. And while men are generally believed to be the culprits, married women too seek pleasure, thrill and excitement outside their married life.

Having an affair with a married woman is not a good idea, but even then if you go ahead, be aware of the consequences.

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