Is he the one
Is he the one? If not sure, how do you know he is the one? Okay, in this article, you will learn how to know he is the one, rather; how to know if he is the one! 10 signs he is the one
When people search for partners and finally find someone they could see themselves saying, “I do” with, it doesn’t mean they should. Is he the one?
Just because you are together doesn’t necessarily mean you should get married. Not all relationships end in marriage, or begin in marriage for that matter.
People come together for all kinds of different reasons. Some of those reasons are very selfish and cause the relationship to fall apart in short order.
Other reasons start out seemingly right, and then the relationship turns sour and can’t be saved.
Not everyone is cut out for marriage. If you are in a relationship and questioning whether or not he’s the one, you are not alone. It’s an age-old question that remains hard to answer.
But we’ve put together a list of qualities to look for in your man before you decide to walk down the aisle.
Ultimately, you only have to consider one thing: do you want to marry this man? The hardest part is being honest with yourself sometimes.
Is he the one? Here are the 10 relevant signs to know:
1. You’re compatible
Not only is your take on attraction an important quality to consider, but so is your compatibility with this person. If all you have in common is good sex, that’s not enough to build a lasting realtionship on.
- Do you like at least some of the same things?
- Do you enjoy the same foods?
- Can you watch the same movies together?
- Are you able to get along with their friends and share experiences together?
If you are not compatible in any other way except in the bedroom, that is not a good recipe for a successful marriage.
Consider how you want your day-today life to look. Is this the person who can help give you that life?
2. You’re not only in it for the sex
Every relationship starts out hot and heavy, and you can’t keep your hands off each other. Every chance you get, you are in the bedroom.
But that doesn’t last. Every relationship goes through stages of intimacy, and as time goes on, couples move away from the lust-filled stage to the companion stage.
While your sexual attraction to this person may change over time, you need to consider whether your companionship will change.
- Are you only in it for sex?
- Are you just looking to get something from this person and not really thinking about a long-term relationship?
Attraction to your spouse is important, but so is the ability to navigate the changes in attraction over time.
People change their looks. We age. How will you feel about them 30 years from now?
3. You feel comfortable around him
How comfortable are you with this person? Are you still hiding things from him and not sharing parts of your life with him? Is he doing the same thing?
If you are hesitant to share aspects of your life for fear that he might judge you, or worse, leave you, then you are not ready to get married.
Having a piece of paper that says you are in it for the long-haul won’t mean anything if he finds out you were keeping big secrets from him.
If, however, you know you can be yourself, through thick and thin, and he doesn’t place blame for things you’ve done before, then he is marriage material for sure.
He’s only thinking of the future even though he knows about your past? Keep him.
Also, one of the best ways to know whether or not he is the one is to see how he acts in stressful situations. Is he looking to protect you? Or is he only thinking about himself?
4. He protects you
A good man always makes his partner feel safe, whether physically or emotionally.
A study published in the Physiology & Behavior journal shows that male testosterone makes them feel protective over their mate’s safety and wellbeing.
Does your man protect you? Not just from physical harm, but does he make sure you’re okay when any negative situation arises?
This is an excellent sign that he could be the one.
There’s actually a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology that’s getting a lot of buzz at the moment. It goes to the heart of the riddle about why men fall in love—and who they fall in love with.
And it has everything to do with why men want to protect women. And why women actually have to enable this behavior. Because if he wants to protect you, then you need to let him.
Men want to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives and provide and protect her. In other words, men want to be your hero.
This is deeply rooted in male biology and hardwired into a man’s mind.
People are calling it the hero instinct.
The kicker is that a man won’t fall in love with you when he doesn’t feel like your hero. He will always feel that something is missing, which means he won’t commit to being in a loving relationship over the long haul.
I know this might sound a bit silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
And I couldn’t agree more.
But here’s the ironic truth. Men still need to be a hero. Because it’s built into our DNA to seek out relationships that allow us to feel like a protector.
5. There is respect between the two of you
Every relationship needs love and respect. You might think they go hand-in-hand, but many people claim to love others without respecting them.
If you’ve ever met someone who has been abused by their spouse, yet they believe more than anything that they are loved, you know what we’re talking about.
Love and respect are not mutually exclusive and need to be present at all times for a marriage to work.
“Love brings bliss to both types of relationships, but only if tempered by respect.” – Peter Gray.
6. You get along with his family
If you are considering whether or not you can marry this man, consider how you get along with his family and how you respect and interpret his history.
If you don’t get along with his family, this is going to be a problem down the road. It might be fine today because you are managing it, but do you really want to get tied up in something that is going to cause grief in your life?
As the saying goes, “you marry an entire family”, and it’s true. The age-old horror story of mother-in-law troubles are very real for a lot of women.
If you already don’t get along with his family, it’s worth considering or reconsidering marriage. It doesn’t get easier just because you took a vow.
7. You agree to disagree
You don’t have to get along with this guy all the time to marry him.
And in fact, it’s better if you don’t agree on everything. Knowing that you can have an opinion about something that is totally different than his opinion is a strong point in your relationship.
If you are made to feel uncomfortable because you don’t think the same way he does, well, that’s a good sign not to get married.
You are not supposed to be the same person, after all, you are supposed to compliment one another in life.
But complementary doesn’t mean that you have to always agree with him. If you are okay with not being on the same side of some issues, then he’s worthy of your hand.
8. He’ll go out of his way for you
It doesn’t matter when you need, if you call him, he will come to you.
If you need advice, a ride, some help, or just a shoulder to cry on, he’ll find a way to get to you and make sure that everything is okay.
If a guy hasn’t said it yet, but is always there for you at a drop of a hat, he probably loves you, and he might even love you secretly.
9. He’s not a quitter
If you’ve had your first fight and he isn’t running for the hills, there’s a good chance he sees potential in this relationship and is already invested in making it work.
So give the guy some space and he’ll come to his senses that he loves you. Besides, if you already know, there’s no rush to get him to say it. He’ll come around.
10. You want him to be happy
Most importantly, the best sign that you should marry this guy is that you want him to be happy.
The idea of him marrying someone else breaks your heart, but if that is what would need to happen to make him happy, then you’d be on board with that.
Of course, you want him to be happy with you and adore his life with you, so tell him that.
Tell him how happy you want him to be and that you want to be the one he shares that happy life with. There’s no need to hide your feelings. If you want to marry him, go for it.
If he is the one, what do you do next?
After reading about these 10 signs, hopefully you’ve realized that you’re with the one. Or at least a really great guy.
Now it’s time to make sure you have a loving, long-lasting relationship with him.
However, after writing about relationships on Hack Spirit for many years, I think there is one crucial ingredient to relationship success that many women overlook:
Understanding how men think.
Getting your guy to open up and tell you what he’s really feeling can feel like an impossible task. And this can make building a loving relationship extremely difficult.
Let’s face it: Men see the world differently to you.
And this can make a deep, passionate romantic relationship—something that men actually want deep down as well—difficult to achieve.
In my experience, the missing link in any relationship is never sex, communication or romantic dates. All these things are important, but they are rarely deal-breakers when it comes to the success of a relationship.
The missing link is that you actually have to understand what men want from a relationship.