Ways to Make your Crush Fall in Love with you
13 Super Ways to Get your Crush to Fall for you! Aka how to make it known that you’d like to eat pizza with them. In your bed. Naked.
We’ve all been in the position of drooling over someone who doesn’t pay attention to us. Friend-zoned or not, we often get starstruck the moment our crush looks at us, resulting in an inability to do something about our deepest desires.
We often seek help from relationship gurus, books, videos and even seminars, yet we get even more lost in the process, resulting in a depressive state of yearning. However, do not be worried, we’ve got your back.
Sure, you want to embody some totally chill girl energy like, “Oh, no, I totally don’t care that you left me on read for two hours,” but at the same time, you also want to make it known that you’d like to eat pizza with them. In your bed. Naked.
So here are the 13 weirdest ways you can make your crush fall in love with you:
1. Ignore them
It’s scientifically proven that the more a person thinks about something, the stronger the synapses in their brains are, resulting in a deep attachment. A common mistake when flirting with someone is to go straight to them and try to get them on your side. This won’t work. Make sure to be the ‘mysterious’ type. Present yourself in the spotlight, make sure your crush notices you, but ignore them at all cost. Slowly, but surely, their interest will grow and ultimately lead to your dreams becoming a reality.
2. Share your flaws and imperfections
Okay, you don’t have to mention that one time you threw up from eating too many Hot Pockets, but you can totally talk about that weird dimple that pops up when you smile. Sharing your flaws and imperfections makes people feel humble and safe, says Dr. Mclee Tembo, “which will encourage them to open up more about their shortcomings, which breeds emotional intimacy.”
3. Ask them to do you a small favor
If they perform a minor act of service for you, they will unconsciously associate feelings of approval and positivity with you. “It’s sneaky but harmless.” Don’t make ‘em stand in line and fight for the last Popeye’s chicken sammie, but it’d be okay to ask them to read over an important email you have to send to your boss, you feel?
4. Be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend to their best friend
Does your crush have a best friend? Would it be easier for you to win them over? Do so! And make sure to be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend for a couple of months. Best friends share everything, plus your crush will start to get jealous enough for you to become ‘the one’ in their heart.
5. Watch a scary movie with them.
Adrenaline sometimes = attraction. Putting your crush in fear-enhancing situations has the potential to make them like you because they attribute their adrenaline rush and increased heart rate to you, rather than the situation.
Make sure you shower regularly even if you don’t do it often, make sure to be clean and well-groomed for your crush. Whether a boy or a girl, no one likes an unhygienic mess. Buy all the hygiene products you can, and start shining.
7. Mimic what your crush is doing
Yup, it’s a thing called the Chameleon effect. When you mimic someone’s behavior, they think more favorably of you. It creates a connection. You see someone smile, you smile. They rub their face, you rub your face. They move their hair, you move your hair. “Follow it up with eye contact to seal the deal.
8. Encourage them to think of you
Similar to the ‘Ignore them’ tip, this one focuses on the way our brains work. The more you encourage someone to think of you, the higher the chance of them falling in love with you. That being said, whether through a game or a puzzle you present them every day, or just by saying ‘hi’ every now and then – by making your crush think of you, you’ll have better chances at winning them over.
9. Wear the same colors they do
“Notice what color clothes they wear most often, and then add some of those colors to your wardrobe,” says Dr. Mclee Tembo. Pro Tip: your crush is totally going to notice that you’re wearing the colors they’re attracted to.
10. Think strategically
If you want to attract your crush, you should start thinking strategically. Plan your actions in advance and always act with confidence – you won’t make your crush fall in love with you just by standing there and looking at them.
11. Find unusual similarities.
“We are attracted to people we perceive as similar to ourselves, and research suggests that attraction will increase if we perceive our commonalities are rare or unusual. So yeah, it’s definitely a big deal if your parents went to the same high school, or you’re both Scorpios (it’s okay to geek out).
12. Spend lots of time with them
This may be the more obvious one of the mixes, but quality time is everything. I mean, how are you going to get to know someone unless you spend time with them? It’s a thing called “The mere exposure effect” and it “refers to the fact that sim
ply being around someone often and long enough will increase their liking of you,” says Dr. Mclee Tembo.
13. Don’t be afraid to get a little touchy-feely
The occasional subtle touch enhances our feelings toward each other, whether it be picking up an imaginary hair off a shoulder or a gentle pat on the arm as you laugh at a joke. This applies especially to all of your physical touch love languagers.